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Part Two on Self-Esteem



The practice of living consciously is the first pillar of self-esteem. 


Look at the area where your life is working least satisfactorily. Self-esteem may increase in direct correlation to professionalism.  That is, your ability to represent yourself appropriately, perform on the job and be a person with whom others can relate, is an indication of success in whatever you choose to do.

Upon honest self-examination, notice that you tend to be more conscious in some areas of our life than in others. According to Nathaniel Brandon, author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, “What determines the level of self-esteem is what the individual does.”

Branden continues by saying: “A ‘practice’ implies a discipline of acting in a certain way over and over again—consistently. It is not action by fits and starts, or even an appropriate response to a crisis. Rather, it is a way of operating day by day, in big issues and small, a way of behaving that is also a way of being.”

For improving self, try using a sentence stem like “Living consciously to me means…” and create 6-10 completions of that sentence. 

The most widely accepted definition is that of Nathaniel Branden, who defines healthy self-esteem as “the disposition to experience oneself as competent to cope with life’s challenges and being worthy of happiness.” (1994) This definition implies not only being worthy of respect, but also as having the basic skills and competencies required to be successful in life. Studies show that people with low self-esteem have more poorly defined self-concepts (Baumeister, 1993). Also, we must like, respect, and love ourselves before we can maintain loving kindness for others or respect for property.

Related PDF articles available: http://www.psy.fsu.edu/~baumeisterticelab/pdfmail.php

see also:

Part One on Self-Esteem

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
by Nathaniel Branden

1. The Practice of Living Consciously
2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance
3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility
4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness
5. The Practice of Living Purposefully
6. The Practice of Personal Integrity




“Acceptance and self-love fit together like a hand into a glove… without acceptance of what is there is a rebelliousness of mind and self-love being thereby impossible, a person is without the deepest appreciation there is and thus helpless and powerless over a life that is tipping toward out of control.”

“What’s the point in your life ? Maybe you want to be rich, popular, socially powerful, … And if this is the wrong way… And finally the only thing you need is to know who you really are deep inside.”

“Self-acceptance could be the key to a happier life, yet it’s the happy habit many people practice the least.”

“It can be difficult when we’re faced with ideas that challenge our own and, though we may wish to be open-minded, we may struggle with the act of it from time to time.”

“We devise and cling on to fairy tales of supposed happiness. We hold on also to futile regrets. Its time to let go and to focus instead on what is actually happening; without judgment.”


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